Wednesday, June 29, 2005

Knitting

So I have been pretty embarrassed to tell most people that I knit. I know that it is usually thought of as an 'old person' hobby, but I have been doing some really cool things like this glove and this scarf. My big goal is this hat though. Seriously, I am actually on my second scarf. My first one is on hold because I have run out of yarn and they only sell it in in the States. My second one is a gift...I know you are all waiting and hoping with baited breath to see if you are the lucky recipient!!! I am actually hoping to hand-make all of my Christmas presents this year (Augh!!! What has become of the cute 25-year-old I once knew?!?! I always tell Kyle that it is his fault I have become so dorky. When he married me I was young and fun and then he took me to Alabama where I started to wear Naturalizers and then to Brussels where I started to knit! Afer the next move I might be eating dinner at 4:30pm and wearing a hearing aid!)

But the point of this blog was to defend the coolness of knitting. If you have some time, check out these articles. My friend Jessica, who is from New York, told me that "Knitting is the new Prozac." I have never been on Prozac, but I can tell you that knitting really is quite calming.

http://www.theyarnco.com/related_articles/Sunday_styles.htm

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/3570579.stm

Tuesday, June 28, 2005

My week last week

I have had a nice week of staying busy over here and being quite social. Monday I went to see "The Interpreter" with Nicole Kidman and Sean Penn. I would definitely recommend this as a date movie or just a good one to see. I finally found a good sushi place over here, so since Kyle was in London, I had a sushi dinner with just me and my knitting.

Tuesday I had a meeting for the Hints Committee that I am on at The American Women's Club. I took this class in January and it was incredibly helpful. It was so well run that I volunteered to help out with it because I knew I would enjoy working with these women. I will actually be presenting the section on Public Transportation. A majority of the women all have cars and GPS systems, so they don't venture out on the metro very often. My hope is to open their eyes to the fact that the metro is easy to navigate and very useful at times.

After the meeting, I had lunch with a friend that I actually met in the Hints class and then did a big shopping trip because I had a car that day. We have joined Cambio Car which is a car sharing program. Basically, rather than renting a car for an entire day, they have cars spread out throughout the city that you share with other people. You get a card when you join (for 33 euros for the year.) You reserve the car over the internet for the amount of time you need it and then scan your card on the front of the car when your reservation begins. The card unlocks the door and the keys are inside. You drive the car for how ever long you have reserved it for and then just pay 2 euro per hour used and .33 cents a km. It can definitely add up, but a friend of ours ran the numbers and figured out that owning a car in Brussels would run you 500 euro a month between gas/insurance/car payment etc. This is our first month doing this, but we are going to give it a try for awhile and the re-evaluate if we really want/need a car.

Wednesday I went to my Stitching group. Our group really has such a nice time together. Kyle and I have started going to the Church of Scotland on Sundays. The ministers wife was kind enough to invite me to a Mothers with Young Children luncheon so I could get to know some of the other women in the church. It looks like I am getting to know even more children! The women were great and I really met some nice people. Wednesday night I went to the market and then out for drinks with Jessica and my new friend Hanna (from Finland.)

Thursday I went driving with my friend Sallie (the article was from when they were in their home in the States, before Brussels.) Many women here use a GPS system to get around. Although I think these are handy for certain situations, I think they stunt peoples natural directional abilites. You start to second guess yourself if you think of going a different way than the GPS tells you to. So I told Sallie that I would be her "human GPS" and give her a tour of Brussels with my own additional commentary on landmarks and ways to get around. Since I have always been taking public transportation or riding shotgun in someone elses car I have had a lot of time to really learn the areas and not have to worry as much about traffic laws etc. We had a good time and each learned more about getting around in the city.

Thursday night we went to our book club meeting. Kyle and I are in one together with Sam, Brian, and a few other couples. This month we read Humbolt's Gift by Saul Bellow. I got through 250 of the 500 pages and just gave up. It was too rambling and boring for my tastes. Next month we are reading The Time Travellers Wife which I think I will enjoy more. I am also in another book club through the American Women's Club. Last month we read Running with Scissors. I really did not enjoy this book. Next we are reading Angry Housewives Eating Bon Bons (ironic title huh?)

Friday I woke up and said to Kyle, "Oh good, I finally have a free day with no committments or anything planned." He laughed and said, "Who would have thought seven months ago that you would be happy to not have anything to do in Brussels?"

Monday, June 27, 2005


If you didn't know better, you might think I was having a Mothers With Young Children gathering, or perhaps that I was even running a daycare! What actually happened was that I was craving Mexican, so I invited a few friends over to share in my Mexican Fiesta craving. We had babies and kids everywhere---Sam, Luke, Aletheia, Kelly, Poppy, Julie-Anne and Kai.  Posted by Hello

Aletheia is now starting to roll at 7 1/2 months. Posted by Hello

Poppy is like a new child now that she is walking everywhere! Posted by Hello

Friday, June 24, 2005

"Go take a cold shower."

I don't think I have been using this quote in its intended purpose, but I sure have been enjoying some cold showers and baths recently. It is about the only way to beat the heat and cool off. I also realized why the Spaniards love siestas so much. About the only other time you are cool besides a cold bath is when you are laying completely still and not moving a muscle. These reasons are why today I got up, went to French lessons, came back and put away all of my winter clothes, took a nap in front of the fan, got up and went to eat ice cream with Sam, Kelly and the kids and then came back to take a cold bath. The good thing about this heat is that I really don't have much of an appetite because I am always so hot!

Thursday, June 23, 2005

Something is wrong with this picture...

I can't believe that I am just now getting out my summer clothes and it is almost July. The thought of that really does make me want to cry because I am normally such a summer girl. There have definitely been a few warm days over here, but the are sporadic and we have also still been wearing our coats in June so I was never quite ready to get my summer stuff out. Now that I have actually gotten it out, I forgot how much fun stuff I had! I also didn't realize how much I was enjoying the bread, butter, cheese and beer over here until I tried on a few pairs of my summer pants! I will definitely be going to the gym more often! So now that summer is finally here, I am realizing the problem with the heat--no one has any air conditioning!!! I am constantly sticky and sweaty. We have bought two fans, but since we are on the 3rd floor, the apartmen just doesn't get that cool. I try to stay outside in the shade as much as possible, but there is only so much time you can spend outside of your home. Enjoy the air-conditioning and summer clothes for me!

Wednesday, June 22, 2005

Any bloggers out there?

So I am trying to add more cool things to my blog and I need all the help I can get. If you know of anyone who uses www.blogger.com or has 'blogspot' in their web address, I would love to e-mail with them to learn more about the features they use. Hope you are enjoying my newest addition of hyperlinks (care of Ali B. Gant)!!!

Tuesday, June 21, 2005

Lonely Housewife

Who would have ever thought that one day Kyle would be saying to me, "Ok, well I am going to Paris on Wednesday and then London the next Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday." What a change from "I'll be in Tuscaloosa, Eufaula, and Arab this week."

So I used to think I had it rough because when we first moved here Kyle wasn't getting home until 9 every night. However, after getting to know more women here and having Kyle away recently, I am just glad he can come home every night (rather than travel), regardless of the time. Apparently part of the expat deal for many companies is that the men have to travel a great amount because obviously it is easier to send someone in Brussels through Europe than to have someone from the States fly over for every trip through Europe. I know many women here who are basically single mothers. Their husbands are gone during the week and then hopefully make it home without any additional work they need to do on the weekend. So basically these women have been plucked from their comfortable lives in the States to still continue being the chauffeur, cook, maid, homework helper, etc, but now they are having to do all of that in a different language without the help of their husband. No wonder so many of them are so resentful!!!

Monday, June 20, 2005

Battle of Waterloo (June 18, 1815)

Click on the link below to see photos from the reenactment of the Battle and of Kyle and Brian playing softball.
http://www.kodakgallery.com/I.jsp?c=121a73ha.6y2mfpqq&x=0&y=9ai6rz

Some more professional photos of the Battle (with more accurate captions too) are in the links here and here.

In case you wanted a history of the Battle (care of BBC):

The Battle of Waterloo, fought near Brussels, marked the end of the French Revolutionary and Napoleonic Wars. Napoleon, exiled on Elba since April 1814, returned to France and reassumed power in March 1815. The Allies opposing him prepared to invade France. Napoleon marched into Belgium against Wellington's combined army of British, Dutch, Belgian and German forces and Marshal Blücher's Prussian army. The French defeated Blücher at Ligny. Wellington withdrew his force of 67,000 from Quatre-Bras to Waterloo. Napoleon attacked Wellington's position with 72,000 troops, putting in three assaults between late morning and late afternoon. The delay allowed the Prussians time to reach the battlefield where they eventually deployed 44,000 troops. Towards sunset a last French attack failed. The French retreated pursued by the Prussians. They left 25,000 dead and wounded and lost 9,000 as prisoners. Wellington lost 15,000 men and Blücher 8,000.

Sunday, June 19, 2005


And of course, the happiest and sweetest little girl in the world, Aletheia (now 7 months old). Posted by Hello

To add to our fun filled Sunday, Brian and Kyle went to play softball after the Battle was over. Little did they know that they were to be playing in three back to back games. Here, Brian is teaching Luke how to keep score. Posted by Hello

Kyle playing tag with Luke and James. Posted by Hello

Behind us are the fields where the men fought during the real war. Today they just fought in three separate (fully prearranged) areas.  Posted by Hello

"Take your seats everyone, the Red Coats are coming!" Posted by Hello

Double click on this picture to look closer at Napoleon. We can't decide if he is the guy on the white horse or the guy right next to him. (Kyle thinks it is the guy on the white horse, but I think he would be more likely to ride in the middle to protect himself.) Posted by Hello

This weekend was the 190th anniversary of the Battle of Waterloo. For those of you that aren't history buffs, this was when Napoleon was defeated once and for all. Waterloo is just 20 minutes south of Brussels. Every five years they do a re-enactment of the battle. Posted by Hello

Thursday, June 16, 2005

Stitching

I am in a group that meets every Wednesday to chat while we are all working on our respective needlework. I am doing a scarf, two women are cross-stitching and another woman is hooking a rug. The true name of the group is Stitch and B--ch but that doesn't always sound as nice.

One of my friends in the group is Sue. This woman knows how to live! She is an avid gardner, traveller, and motorcyclist! If you have some free time, check out their website of all of their adventures and hobbies.

Teachers

This was a great forward sent to me by my friend Kate. A big thank you to all of the wonderul teachers out there who put up with so much!!!

Being interviewed by the school administration, the eager teaching prospect said: "Let me see if I've got this right. You want me to go into that room with all those kids, and fill their every waking moment with a love for learning. And I'm supposed to instill a sense of pride in their ethnicity, modify their disruptive behavior, observe them for signs of abuse and even censor their T-shirt messages and dress habits. You want me to wage a war on drugs and sexually transmitted diseases, check their backpacks for weapons of mass destruction, and raise their self esteem. You want me to teach them patriotism, good citizenship, sportsmanship, fair play, how to register to vote, how to balance a checkbook, and how to apply for a job. I am to check their heads for lice, maintain a safe environment, recognize signs of antisocial behavior, and make sure all students pass the mandatory state exams, even those who don't come to school regularly or complete any of their assignments. Plus, I am to make sure that all of the students with handicaps get an equal education regardless of the extent of their mental or physical handicap. And I am to communicate regularly with the parents by letter, telephone, newsletter and report card. All of this I am to do with a piece of chalk, a computer, a few books, a bulletin board, a big smile AND on a starting salary that qualifies my family for food stamps. You want me to do all of this and yet you expect me.....not to pray?"

Wednesday, June 15, 2005

80s Music

If you are bored and want to take a fun little quiz of your 80s music knowledge then click here. Good luck!!!

Tuesday, June 14, 2005

Cute Stationery

My friend Ali Gant always had the trendiest outfits and knows about the most fun new things. So of course, she was the one to introduce me to the iomoi website. They had some really cute stuff on there and it might be fun to browse around.

Sunday, June 12, 2005


The new Mr. and Mrs. Wingfield Posted by Hello

Who could forget the beauty (and heat!) of that day. Posted by Hello

Needless to say, I think we all had a great time that night! Posted by Hello

Kyle knew he was getting a package deal! Posted by Hello

Saturday, June 11, 2005

Adventures in Babysitting

Our first anniversary will be celebrated with wild times had by babysitting Luke (5) and James (4). Brian is moderating a panel in Venice this weekend so he, Sam and Aletheia are spending a relaxing and much-deserved weekend there. Kyle and I picked up the boys Saturday at noon. After feeding them lunch we walked to a birthday party for a friend of theirs. The half-mile walk took a good hour with the many stops we had to make to throw rocks, not step on the cracks, and a comment on everything the boys saw. Although some parents were staying at the party, we decided it might just be a little too hard to explain why we were spending Saturday at the Children's Museum to celebrate our anniversary. Kyle and I tried to kill two hours while staying close by the museum, which brought back many memories of my parents just sitting in a car waiting for one party or another to get over while my sister and I were in high school.

Obviously being new at this parenting thing, Kyle and I tried to be nice by offering the boys two restaurant options to choose from for dinner. We should have known that they would each choose the opposite restaurant. The next mistake was when Kyle ordered James a real Coke for dinner. I at least knew that caffeine and sugar are never a good combination for kids, especially at night time.

Getting ready for bed took a good hour between reading stories, Kyle singing some Boy Scout camp songs and James talking to Kyle for 20 minutes while "trying" to go to the bathroom. There was only one water request once they had been tucked in. We later went upstairs to find that Luke had sneaked into his parents bed, but at least he was asleep, so we were happy.

Tomorrow we hope to go to church and then play at the park. Brian and Sam return around 7pm, so tomorrow we will really get to see what a full day of parenting is like!

Things I Have Learned About Myself While In Brussels

I was chatting with a 45-year-old friend of mine the other day and she said, “You are so lucky that you can learn so much about yourself at such a young age through this experience. It takes some people a lifetime to learn as much about themselves as you will probably learn in the next five years.” So this got me thinking…“What have I learned about myself and life already?” Here are a few things…

1. I hate writing letters and e-mails. (I think a few of you might have already figured this one out!) I am a very “here and now” friend. Basically, if you are in my here and now I love to hang out with you and talk as often as possible. However, if you are away from me, I think of you OFTEN, but never get around to writing. I feel horrible about that, but I have finally accepted that that is just me.

2. I am really good at making friends (just not always keeping up with them once they are goneJ). I know that is a pompous comment, but that is the truth. In six months I have made some incredible friends and have had a great time doing it. Now if only I could make that into a money-making enterprise…

3. You job defines you a lot more than you realize. I have never thought of myself as a “career woman” (meaning having a strong desire to climb the corporate ladder) but I have a much harder time defining myself now that I don’t work. I think I have been a great friend to people here, but a paycheck definitely validates your existence a lot more than thinking you are a good friend.

4. However, I also think the quote, “What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other” really holds true. It is not the job that will define our life as much as the people we have touched.

5. Being flexible is the key to life. I have learned to laugh when I get lost and see it as a new adventure (thanks to Moa!), and I have been able to go to a lot more lunches and coffees since I am available at the drop of a hat and don’t have to plan for weeks ahead to make the date fit.

6. Learning a new language is REALLY hard.

7. It is much easier to make friends in a foreign country than it is in the USA. It is amazing how you immediately drop all of your guards and pretenses when you are abroad. Ironically enough, the people I get most nervous/stressed-out/up-tight to see are American women because I feel like there is some standard that I am supposed to live up to (dressed nicely, made up, nice clothes etc.) whereas I feel most comfortable with the people that live outside the US.

8. I like being by myself a lot more than I ever realized. At home I was constantly going from one thing to the next so I always thought I liked to be busy. However, now that I am here and have more time alone I have realized that I really like it! Who knew I had a little bit of introvert in me!?!

9. I am a pretty good cook. I still have trouble actually following a recipe, but that is because I always want to add my own touch to it. I will never be a Betty Crocker, but I have gained enough confidence in the kitchen to feel comfortable there.

10. Who knows what else I will figure out about myself in the coming years. I have decided to take this time to explore as many opportunities as possible. I have taken up knitting and have also just recently bought a few paint brushes and a canvas. I have been enjoying cooking and am about to attempt to sew something! Basically I am doing all of the HomeEc things I never did because I was too busy socializing!

Thursday, June 09, 2005

Blink

I am reading the most fascinating book right now. It is titled Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. He is also the author of Tipping Point, which I have not read, but have heard is also fascinating. Blink is all about how your subconscious can just 'know' something. You might not be able to explain why you think or feel that way, but you just know. I find this book amazing because I am definitely more of an intuitive person than a sensing person (meaning that I use my intuition to make decisions more than I use my five senses.) This books makes me feel better than I am not just crazy for 'feeling' things and knowing that I should believe them. All my life I have felt bad for meeting someone and thinking, "I need to stay away from that person" because I felt that I was being too judgemental. After reading Blink I have realized that I can either go with my gut feeling and save myself a year of a troubled friendship, or I can waste a year getting to know this person and still come away with the same opinion that I should avoid them.

Everyone should go read Blink. The book is filled with a variety of studies and stories that relate to so many different areas of our lives. Overall just an incredible book!

Monday, June 06, 2005


Since I have a fair amount of freetime here, I have taken up a few hobbies. First I learned how to knit, then I worked on some cross-stitching and now I have taken up sewing. I didn't want to invest in a big sewing machine incase I didn't like it, so here is picture of my little 12 euro one. I put the book in the picture to give you a reference of how small it is.  Posted by Hello

Aletheia is awake and happy after a good nap. Posted by Hello

James wore a coat and tie for the performance. Here he is with the remnants of his costume (the briefcase and moustache.) Posted by Hello

The sweetest little girl. Aletheia slept through the whole performance--music, clapping and all! Posted by Hello

We went to see James in his school performance on Saturday. Here is a picture of Luke and Kyle hanging out. Posted by Hello